If you’re poly, finding sites that are geared toward your lifestyle can be challenging. Many sites assume that their members are looking for one-on-one dating. At EliteSingles, our goal is to match members based on their compatibility. For some members, that may mean finding other people who are polygamous or would like to join a poly relationship.
Polyamorous Dating Site and App
Monogamy is certainly not for everyone, and more and more people are giving ethical non-monogamous dating a try. It’s gotten so popular, in fact, that a 2021 poll found that one in nine people in the U.S. either practice polyamory or have in the past, and one in six want to be polyamorous.
So why does it seem like it’s difficult to find polyamorous partners? For one, many poly people would prefer to keep their lifestyle preference private, particularly if they’re in a field or type of business where open polyamory isn’t as common. That’s where a site like EliteSingles comes in. EliteSingles allows polyamorous singles, couples, and groups to meet in a secure virtual environment. When you sign up, you will create an online dating profile that will determine the types of members the algorithm will find for you.
Because profiles are for individuals, you and your partner(s) can each develop one to help with the search. You don’t have to disclose that you’re poly if you’re concerned about someone you know from your personal or professional life discovering this about you, but we do encourage you to be honest about it once you’ve matched with another member.
Find Like-Minded Partners/ Open Relationships Overview
There is no one-size-fits-all guide to polyamorous dating. There are many different dynamics to this lifestyle. Here are a few pointers to help you figure out what you’re searching for.
What Does Your Ideal Relationship Look Like?
Are you a bisexual single whose ideal relationship is a throuple with a man and a woman? Are you part of a married couple, looking for a similar couple to spend time with? Are you a single person looking for a ready-made poly family? There are no wrong answers, but before you begin your search, you should know what the right answers are.
What Would Make You Match With a Member?
If you’re looking for someone on EliteSingles, it may help if you have a preconceived notion of what they’re like. You may want to meet a straight man, a gay woman, a non-binary individual, someone who is younger or older, etc. The more you understand, the better the chance that you’ll find them.
Do You Have Dating Rules?
Many poly folks have rules for governing the relationship. For example, the division of time, how the holiday will work, who can engage in sex with whom, etc. A lot of outsiders think that polyamory is a free-for-all, but that’s not the case. The most successful poly relationships establish ways to determine how they are supposed to work. Naturally, some flexibility helps as people’s preferences, goals, and tastes change.
Non-Monogamous Dating on EliteSingles
Many dating sites discourage ethical nonmonogamous dating. It’s not that they’re morally opposed to it; it’s that their platform doesn’t support non-traditional matching. EliteSingles is a site that’s geared toward well-educated, successful professionals, which is our major draw. Our dating platform does not discourage members from expressing their love in any way that they see fit. We do, however, encourage members to be as open as they can about their goals and desires. Here are some tips for avoiding complications when looking for non-monogamous love on EliteSingles.
Put Polyamory In Your Profile (If You Can)
Most people in the polyamorous culture understand why certain members don’t feel comfortable disclosing their lifestyle choices. They may not feel that it’s appropriate for certain subsections of their lives. While there is a possibility that a friend, neighbor, or family member may see your profile, it’s nearly impossible for a non-member to view your profile.
Disclosing that you’re in a polyamorous relationship can help you avoid misunderstandings or difficult conversations down the line. By the same token, if you are single, but seeking a couple, you may find that stating that in your profile will lead you to exactly the kind of matches that you’re looking for.
Be Detailed About Your Arrangement
If you are out as poly, you might as well be specific. Let other members who are seeking poly arrangements know exactly which type of poly situation you’re seeking. For instance, “I’m part of a couple, looking to match with women for polyamorous dating. Or, “My husband and I are seeking another couple to form a quad.” You can see that these are very different goals and might attract completely different members.
Cast a Wide Net
Even if you live in a city with a large poly community, many members are not going to be compatible on a personal or relationship level. The EliteSingles dating algorithm matches people based on personality compatibility and relationship goals. You may find that some of our matches don’t suit you, which is normal. The wider your geographic search region, the more likely you will find members who match your needs.
Use Lots of Photos
Whoever said, “A Picture is worth a thousand words,” must have been thinking about EliteSingles. Posting several pictures improves your chances of matching. When it comes to posting pictures of others in your relationship, make sure you have their permission before posting.
Join for Free
We offer a free Basic program, which allows you to try some of EliteSingles’ basic options. You can view member profiles, take our dating personality test, fill out your profile, and upload pictures. If you feel that EliteSingles is the right fit for you, upgrading to Premium is easy, and you can keep your existing profile.
Sign up for EliteSingles free today. You have nothing to lose.
Safe and Secure Platform
We pride ourselves on being one of the most secure platforms in online dating. Our members complete a multiple-question personality test, which discourages bad actors who would prefer to sign up for dating sites with easier access. Additionally, we routinely review our all of accounts for inactive memberships, which are susceptible to hacking. When members report abusive or suspicious activity on an account, we investigate it to determine whether or not the account should be removed.
However, safety also depends on members. Here are some tips for safely navigating polyamorous dating on EliteSingles:
- Never divulge personal information to a member, including home address, work address, passwords, account information, travel plans, etc. If you decide you want to contact a member of the site, provide one point of contact, like a social media account, a phone number, or your email address, but no more than one or two.
- Use the messenger feature that’s available on Premium accounts until you’re comfortable enough to provide another member with an alternate mode of contact.
- Before you agree to meet someone in person, consider having a video call with them. This will ensure that the person in the photographs is actually the one you’ve been talking to. It can also help prevent awkward catfishing attempts where the member uses out-of-date photos.
- When you do meet, choose a public place that all parties are comfortable with. For first meetings, we recommend a coffee shop or quiet restaurant where you can hear each other speak.
- Use a safety person to track your movements. This is a family member or friend who can check on your well-being. If you go to a second location, you’ll update your safety person.
- Never invite a stranger to your home.
- Report anyone who asks you to send money or requests your financial information online.
Privacy and Discretion Guaranteed
EliteSingles will protect your information to the best of our ability. However, there is always the possibility another member who you know in real life may find your dating profile. That’s why you need to determine how much information you want to publicly disclose.
EliteSingles Features
Premium accounts unlock all of EliteSingles features. In addition to the features that you receive on the Basic account, the Premium account includes:
- Unlimited messaging on the site or within the app
- Commenting on profile entries and photos
- Complete access to our personality profile
- The ability to see all of the other members’ profiles
- The ability to see who has visited your profile
- Your profile is boosted to other Premium members
- Read receipts for messages
- 20 extra “Have you met?” matches every day
The mobile app is available on iOS and Android platforms.
EliteSingles Members
EliteSingles is unique in that it caters to successful and educated singles who are often affluent. These are not requirements for joining the site, however. EliteSingles just appeals more to this demographic. Many polyamorous singles find that EliteSingles has the right membership composition for them. With 12.5 million users worldwide, you can’t go wrong with EliteSingles.
Chat and Connect With Others
If you have a difficult time meeting polyamorous individuals, couples, and groups in your area, EliteSingles can help you connect with like-minded people. The chat feature allows you to chat in privacy.
Filters Help Explore Your Desires
You can adjust your filters to view new member profiles, profiles with photos, profiles that you’ve previously visited, and more. You can also set your geographic, age, and gender preferences to narrow the search results.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, if you’re polyamorous, you need a safe, effective platform that you can use without fear of judgment or discrimination. Try EliteSingles for free. If you like what it has to offer, you can easily upgrade it to Premium. Sign up today!